Can failure be my stepping stone to success?

Airplanes have always been my interest and dream. From a young age, I had aspired to become a pilot or an aeronautical engineer. I followed my dream and went on to study foundation course in Engineering but failed to achieve the pre-requisite grades to enter an undergraduate degree in Engineering. I stopped and re-considered what drove my aspiration for Engineering and wrestled in my mind on the reasons to become an engineer. I have read in countless articles that an ambition must be fuelled by passion. The penny dropped, I was pursuing a dream not because I was passionate about Engineering but because I enjoyed the idea of flying and everything to do with travelling and buzzing airports. For example, from my desk in the United Arab Emirates (UAE), I am at awe at how Dubai’s growth today is underpinned by tourism with sprawling hotels and major infra-structural projects and real estates. The Dubai airport is one of the best airports in the world with extensive runways and duty-free. According to Dubai Airports 2013 statistics, a total of 66,431,533 passengers visited the airport and The National reported on 30th December 2014 that its the busiest airport in the world. HH Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoom, the Ruler of Dubai saidWe, in the UAE, have no such word as “impossible”; it does not exist in our lexicon. Such a word is used by the lazy and the weak, who fear challenges and progress. When one doubts his potential and capabilities as well as his confidence, he will lose the compass that leads him to success and excellence, thus failing to achieve his goal. I require you, youth, to insist on number one.”  I couldn’t agree more, we must be bold and seize every opportunity and not be afraid of making mistakes because mistakes give us experience and courage to be experimental. UAE is after all an emerging country, a developing country and a young nation that recently celebrated its 43rd birthday. Before the formation of UAE, Dubai and Abu Dhabi – the 2 largest emirates within the UAE were composed of tribes and used Gulf Indian rupee as its currency.  It is the Ruler’s vision that has propelled the country to rapid growth and development.

Pauline Estrem perfectly defined us as individuals who are so focused on not failing that we don’t aim for success, settling instead for a life of mediocrity. When we make mistakes, we polish our mistakes and edit that little part out of our life’s résumé.

According to Margie Warrell, there are three main assumptions that humans make when we are accomplishing a task. Admittedly, these three assumptions do run through my mind when a task is given. Firstly, we over-estimate that something will go wrong. In the article of Margie Warrell, she quoted Daniel Kahneman and his book Thinking, Fast and Slow which stated that humans tend to focus more on what will go wrong than right and it will most likely go wrong instead of right. That is why positive attitudes or thoughts are really important. Secondly, we tend to exaggerate on what will happen if it goes wrong. Rather than trying to solve the crisis which has gone off track, we think and imagine that our life would tear apart especially at home with our family and loved ones. We panic and imagine the worst case scenario, crippled with fear. Thirdly, we underestimate our own ability to handle any task. Well, this would hit the top of my list of assumptions. Never in your life must you underestimate yourself but with full strength, confidence and support network, they will carry you through any tasks or situations.

Now that I know that these assumptions are inherent in us, I will learn to pick up myself when I make mistakes. I will love my life and never let anything or anyone put me down. Failure is the stepping stone to my success in life and there is nothing to be sad or ashamed about because the failure and success is my personal journey.

As for my future career plans, my passion is in the aviation industry. I would like to think that someday I will be working for a large airlines company and using my writing skills to share to the world beautiful stories from the top of the world!

As for my future career plans, my passion is in the aviation industry. I would like to think that someday I will be working for a large airlines company and using my writing skills to share to the world beautiful stories from the top of the world!

Farewell Fear

Finally, here I am, sitting down at my desk and I want to freeze time whilst I have a small window of self-confidence to write my first piece. I’ve always wanted to write but have never had the time to write or perhaps I didn’t have the confidence to do so. Yes, I was a coward. Thoughts such as; bad reviews or nasty comments kept running through my mind; in short, fear. My inner voice gently repeated in my head “You’ve never been good enough”. Well, I bet all of us do so at certain times and so I asked myself – how does a lawyer become a lawyer? Was he born a lawyer? Or did he make the effort to learn to be one?

This is my first experience of writing and it feels like I can succeed at anything now, but knowledge and information is needed together with passion and interest. In the article written by Patricia Rowe Willrich, she quoted Anne Tyler, “If we wait till we feel like writing, we might never write at all”. So, with the encouragement of my aunt, I began reading books of different genres to teach myself on different styles and perspectives of writers.

Frankly speaking, it was one of my 2014 Resolutions to start writing! Time was never my best friend. All Time has ever said to me was ‘I’ll keep running’ or ‘I’m not sure if you’ll keep up’. Well, it is already the month of November and I’m still hesitating on completing ONE of my resolutions. But oh well, I have to say, how can you go up a ladder without taking the first step? It took a “Write Now!” statement on one of the many blogs I read, to get me moving. So, this is my first time writing and by God’s grace, may this be one of many to come.

I have learnt several lessons while preparing this very first article such as – never let fear keep you from embarking on your dream or you would never know unless you try. In Daven Hiskey’s article, I found Theodore Roosevelt’s quote, “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed”. Learning from your mistake is always the best way to learn. This goes out to all of you who are still hesitating on starting something (I mean something good), go ahead! Take the first step, let Him do the rest.